If you’re smart and if you respect and love yourself, you won’t wait for him.
You’ll give him one or two second chances, but those will be the last ones you’ll give. You won’t leave without a warning because you’re not that kind of a girl. You’ll give him that one more chance to set things right, to make amends, but if he blows up once again, don’t wait for him and just leave.
Don’t wait for him to change because he won’t. People don’t change that easily. Actually, I’m not even sure if it’s possible. They may fool you and pretend they have turned another page, but in essence, deep down inside, people stay the same. The only difference is that after they’ve ‘changed’, they don’t say the things they want to say out loud and they don’t do the things they want to do because they want to fool you into thinking they are not their old selves.
You can’t buy this crap. You can believe it, but not for long. So believe me, it’s better to cut him loose right away than to wait and be disappointed after you find out that he was lying to you that whole time. A relationship where you have to wait for him to change something in his life, his behavior or even worse, his personality, is a relationship that is set to fail from the start. There is no point in trying. The only thing you’re going to get out of it is you, alone and hurt.
Don’t wait for him to come to his senses. This could last for so long. And all that time, you’re going to get even more hurt than you already are while you humor him and grant every wish he has. As long as you keep trying and acting like nothing is happening, he won’t realize that his behavior is shit. He’ll keep on neglecting you because he sees that you’re okay with that.
If you keep on waiting for him and letting him treat you the way you don’t deserve, you’ll let him wound your heart so hard that you’re going to spend months trying to heal. Who knows? Maybe he is not that someone you’re supposed to be with. Maybe you’re settling and you don’t even know it. Maybe there is something so much better out there for you. You just have to cross the first obstacle. You have to be brave enough to pass the test. So, no, don’t wait for him to come to his senses.
Don’t wait for him to treat you as a priority. You shouldn’t come second. You should never be someone’s back up plan and now it seems like you’re his. When you fall in love, it’s supposed to be the best experience of your life. Love is supposed to evoke feelings you don’t want to end, emotions you want to fall asleep with and get up in the morning feeling. But if love makes you feel unwanted and makes you beg for attention, then it’s not real love and he is not the man for you.
He should always put you first. If he loves you, he should show it to you. Those three little words are surely nice to hear, but if they are not supported by actions, then they don’t mean anything.
Don’t wait for him to show respect. You’ve earned your respect and if he can’t see that, he is not the man for you. Maybe he thinks it’s normal to act that way, but a strong and independent woman such as yourself doesn’t have to put up with it. You won’t have any problems finding someone who will value you. You will find him in a heartbeat, while he…he may have lost the only chance to be loved in his lifetime.
You deserve a man who appreciates your hard work and how much time and effort you’re investing in everything you’re passionate about. You deserve a man who believes in you and stands by your side in everything you do. You deserve someone who’ll see how hard you’re trying, someone who will hug you at the end of the day and hold you to help you get your strength back.
Don’t wait for him to realize what a horrible mistake he has made. One day, he will be sorry for not taking care of you better. One day, he’ll see you with another man, happy and smiling. He’ll see a spark in your eyes he never saw before and then it will hit him. It will suddenly dawn on him what a complete idiot he was. But, then it will be too late. He’ll try to win you back and he’ll fail.
Don’t wait for him to regret losing you. Don’t stick around for so long. Go on and continue with your life without him in it.
You’re better off without him anyway.
You deserve better than him anyway.
Just make the first move and the rest will come.