For as long as you can remember, people have been trying to put you into different boxes.
Even when you were a little girl, your parents, your teachers and your family tried to tell you how you should be. They tried to control the way you looked and behaved.
Things such as what you were wearing, what your interests were, what kind of music you were listening to, what kind of books you should read and who you should hang out with.
And you are very well aware that they just wanted to help you become a better person.
But this went on even when you grew older.
This went on with your professors, friends and everyone you encountered. Wherever you went, people expected you to be someone you were not.
And different people in your life had different expectations.
When you were in school, all the girls expected you to look and behave just like them in order for them to accept you as part of their group.
Boys expected you to be who they wanted you to be, so they could like you more.
Your family expected you to make their dreams come true and to fulfill their ambitions.
And none of these people asked you what it was that you wanted.
With time, this made you lose yourself. For years, you were leading different battles with yourself and with everyone around you.
You’ve always felt like you are torn apart between the things you wished for and between everyone else’s desires.
And in this process, you forgot who you actually were—which parts of your personality were only yours and which parts had been imposed on you.
Because like it or not, with time, you’ve started adapting to others, and you’ve started changing. And there is nothing unusual in that.
After all, we are social beings, and we all want to be accepted by the people around us.
But let me tell you one thing—screw them. Screw everyone who doesn’t love you for who you are and everyone who tries to put you into a box.
Screw everyone who doesn’t respect the fact that you are one of a kind, and everyone who doesn’t accept the real you.
It’s time for you to rediscover yourself. It’s time for you to stop listening to others and for you to start following your own heart.
It’s time for you to stop adapting to society and for you to stop trying to follow some social norms and rules which have no logical background.
It’s time for you to stop being scared.
Scared of becoming an outcast and a loner. Scared that everyone will cut you off if you show them that you are not the person they want you to be.
It’s time for you to stop being afraid to be yourself.
I’m not saying it’s easy. After all, we all do some things just because they are expected of us and just because social norms tell us that they are normal.
But just remember that normal is overrated. What is normal for the spider, is chaos for the fly.
We all have our own definitions of normal, and it’s about time you started doing what you and only you think is normal.
It’s time to get the courage to start following your own standards and norms, without being scared of what people might think of you.
The time has come for you to stop following trends when it comes to your clothes, hair or makeup; for you to stop comparing yourself to others, including celebrities.
It’s time for you to embrace all of your physical and emotional imperfections; for you to stop perceiving yourself as weak just because you are emotional.
It’s time for you to form your own trends and your own personality. To follow your own rules and norms of behavior. To stop listening to anyone telling you how you should act in relationships and friendships.
The time has come to stop thinking about the people who might judge you because these are the people you don’t need in your life.
It’s time for you to start doing whatever makes you happy because you are the only one who will deal with the consequences of your actions.