A lot of people think that they need someone in their life to feel complete. The truth is that the only person you need is yourself. You are the only human being you can not escape from. Others are welcome to stay if they contribute positive energy to your life. Those who make you feel bad can pack their stuff and go. You don’t need them. Just like you don’t need a man to live your life. You can handle things well on your own.
So don’t fool yourself by thinking you need a man. You really don’t. You can live a very happy life without him. A man will not magically solve every problem you have. In fact, a wrong man will only give you even more problems. So enjoy life, remember who you are, make yourself happy. And every time you think you need a man in your life, read these reasons to convince yourself otherwise.
1. You are your own hero.
There is nothing a man can do that you can’t. Maybe you’ll find a different way, but you’ll do it. You can change the light bulb by yourself. You can change the tire by yourself. It’s not that hard. If you’re healthy, you can do anything. Having a man in your life is not a fairytale. He’s not that Prince Charming who will keep you safe and protect you by all means. He’s only human, too. He sometimes needs to be protected, as well. He has the same capabilities and needs as you. So don’t sit around and wait for someone to change that freaking light bulb. Change it yourself. If one man can do it, you can do it, too.
2. He’s not perfect.
As said before, men have the same needs as women. Don’t think of him like he’s the perfect example of life that will make everything better. Hercules doesn’t exist. Sure, when you fall in love with someone you look at him like he’s perfect, but always keep in mind the fact that he’s only human.
Define what kind of a man you think you need in your life. Then, try to implement in your personality all of those attributes you chose for him. If you think you need a strong man, that means you need to make yourself stronger. If you think you need a funny man, that means you need to watch more comedies. Bring into your life what you need and want. Don’t wait for it to come. It won’t come as easily as you think. Your life won’t be perfect when some perfect man becomes a part of it. It will become perfect when you decide for it to be perfect. It’s all up to you.
3. A relationship is not equal to happiness.
The same way a man won’t bring perfection into your life, he won’t bring you happiness either. Again, it’s up to you to make yourself happy and build a happy life. I bet you can name at least three unhappy couples you know. Happiness is so rare. It takes two parents to make a child. Love and understanding are happiness’ parents. If they’re not a part of your relationship, then neither is happiness. Don’t take your smile for granted. Don’t be in a relationship for the sake of being in one. If he makes you happy and loved and understands you completely, then you can be with him. But if he’s not, then you don’t need him. Relationships are usually very stressful and full of drama. If you feel you need drama in your life, you can always re-watch ‘Titanic’.
4. There are other people in your life that deserve your time.
Being in a relationship takes a lot of time and energy. You focus on one person only and forget about the others. But there are other people in your life that deserve attention. The first one is yourself. You should always make time to work on yourself. Take a trip, learn some new things and skills. Get to know your mind and the way it functions. Get active. You can never be overeducated or too healthy.
Those who also deserve attention are your friends and family. These are the most important people in your life. They stand by you in any situation. Take them out on a lunch. See what’s going on in their lives. Maybe you could help them with something.
Time is the only thing that you can’t get back in your life, so spend it wisely. Spend it on people who are worth it. Don’t waste it on thinking that you need a man or, even worse, on a relationship with a wrong one.
5. You have time to get to know yourself.
It is not only that you deserve to invest some time in yourself, you also must do it. You have to get to know yourself as a person. Get to know your needs, wishes and expectations. If you don’t define what you want from life, how can life know what to give you? If there was a man in your life right now, you wouldn’t have time for that because you’d be focusing on getting to know him. Don’t get to know anyone before you get to know yourself.
If you need some help in getting to know yourself, here are some questions for you to answer:
– What is the one word that describes you?
– What is your dream job?
– What do you truly believe in?
– Who is your best friend?
– Who is the person that taught you the most things in your life?
– What makes you angry?
– What makes you smile?
– When was the last time you cried?
– How do you think other people see you?
– Do you like the way you think and the way you’re presenting yourself to others?
– If not, why don’t you change it?